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Ever been "moved" by the death of someone you didn't know?


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This was this kid I went to high school with, he's like two years younger than me, anyway, he was visiting his family in Mexico and he was murdered.

The newspaper article is right here:
[url="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/27/alexis-marron-murdered-in_n_1170906.html"]http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/27/alexis-marron-murdered-in_n_1170906.html[/url]

Even with the fact that I didn't really know the guy, I've seen him at school back when, but his death just moved me and almost summoned tears. I feel for this guys family.


But my question is: Has anybody's death, whether you were just acquaintances or just you've never met them, made you sad in any way?

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A friend's dad of mine died from an aneurysm on the 23rd last week. I never met his dad, but I mean, it's his [i]dad.[/i]
All I could think about was how his family was going to get through it, because everyone in the sanctuary was crying, and even with my somewhat apathetic nature, I had tears welling up in my eyes in his memorial service that was yesterday.

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Regarding people I didn't know this is probably the closest I've been, There was a girl in the same class as
my dad's little sister in what I think equals to highschool in the U.S.
The day before graduation, she comitted suicide.

No one ever knew why but for some reason it realy moved me since you have to most likely be in and/or have been in a pretty deep s*** for a while to
decide to kill yourself only a day away from your graduation (previously been suicidal myself).
On the graduation day, her mom had shown up to watch as the students graduated and let me tell you, she was a complete mess and you could see that she had been crying hystericly.
My only thoughts at that moment was that I sincerely hoped she would be able to survive that since you could tell that it had hit a very soft spot.

Beyond that, only the death of my Granddad on my mom's side (The only relative I have that died after I got to know him) realy managed to move me because everyone in our family were all quite close to him

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[quote name='Larxene' timestamp='1325210281' post='5737972']
I'm barely even moved when someone I [i]do[/i] know dies.
I mean it happens, it sucks, but I get over it really quickly. Most things don't leave much of a lasting impression on me.
[/quote]
Ugh, I saw this coming when I saw your avatar next to the thread title.
"I'm a narcissist and I care for no one, blah, blah."
The only thing I do believe about you that you have said is that you're 18+? And you're still a virgin.
Well, whatever floats the imaginary boat that you ride.

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[quote name='Travie' timestamp='1325210534' post='5737976']
Ugh, I saw this coming when I saw your avatar next to the thread title.
"I'm a narcissist and I care for no one, blah, blah."
The only thing I do believe about you that you have said is that you're 18+? And you're still a virgin.
Well, whatever floats the imaginary boat that you ride.
[/quote]
I just get over things quickly. Don't see the problem with that. Really, what's the point of dwelling on something that you have no control over?
s*** happens, it sucks, move on.

And yes, I'm 19. But I really don't care, I can be patient.

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[quote name='Larxene' timestamp='1325216141' post='5738154']
I just get over things quickly. Don't see the problem with that. Really, what's the point of dwelling on something that you have no control over?
s*** happens, it sucks, move on.

And yes, I'm 19. But I really don't care, I can be patient.
[/quote]
Eh, I get where you're coming from but even so.
Well, whatever.

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This girl in my 8th grade class died in a fire with her family and grandmother. Only her brother lived. Worst part was the fire started from faulty Christmas lights. She was the swim team's ace/captain, so we took her passing especially hard.
One of my best friend's dad passed away earlier that year due to stomach cancer. And this friend of mine generally had sh*tty luck, so I really felt for him.

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[quote name='Finding The Everlight' timestamp='1325031971' post='5733168']
But my question is: Has anybody's death, whether you were just acquaintances or just you've never met them, made you sad in any way?
[/quote]

Not really. If I don't know them then I'm not moved in any way. It's not really my business to get involved in someone's crisis.

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When I clicked on this thread, I immediately thought that there would be some "I FEEL NO EMOTION DEATH IS FINE BLEH" comments from people trying in vain to be "cool". YCM, you prove me correct.

The death of family members and friends make me upset, but I find the death of close family or treasured heroes the hardest to take.

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[quote name='Dт. Михаи́л Ботви́нник PчD' timestamp='1325350812' post='5740996']
When I clicked on this thread, I immediately thought that there would be some "I FEEL NO EMOTION DEATH IS FINE BLEH" comments from people trying in vain to be "cool". YCM, you prove me correct.[/quote]
If you are correct, it is merely by chance. Why should a person be moved by the death of someone to whom they have no attachment?

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[quote name='Morrigan' timestamp='1325376146' post='5741764']
If you are correct, it is merely by chance. Why should a person be moved by the death of someone to whom they have no attachment?
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Because humans are sentimental, strange creatures whose sense of grief varies between each person. A lot of people register sadness upon the death of anything, unless they are sociopaths or have a dark sense of humour. If your neighbour's budgie died, you would probably say "I'm sorry for your loss" and you would probably think "that's sad". People who want to seem sort of cool and distant like whatever Anime (cartoon) character you care to name will say they have mental problems ('cause it's COOL to be autistic, apparently) or that they feel tortured inside, or that they don't register emotions and shut them off ('cause it's COOL to be emotional screwed up).

Somewhat ironically, all this does is cause me to grieve for their messed-up little heads. [color=#ffffff]rant over[/color]

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[quote name='Dт. Михаи́л Ботви́нник PчD' timestamp='1325418434' post='5742619']
Because humans are sentimental, strange creatures whose sense of grief varies between each person. A lot of people register sadness upon the death of anything, unless they are sociopaths or have a dark sense of humour. If your neighbour's budgie died, you would probably say "I'm sorry for your loss" and you would probably think "that's sad".[/quote]
Suppose a person's level of grief varies on a scale of 0-100, where 0 is none and 100 is feeling intense emotions as if events related to you. 0 is still a level on this scale and thus possible for a person to have. A dark sense of humor? What do you consider dark? Why does it matter?

The phrase "I'm sorry for your loss" is usually said as a formality, not out of some deep emotional connection. It would be considered "rude" if one did not care about the death of someone else, but online, people are not held accountable to the people who would consider such rude. It is online that you may see a glimpse of a person's true nature.

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A person I barely knew in 2nd grade. Her name was Shadia.

She didn't appear in 3rd grade, so I thought she was held back. I was right and wrong. She was going to be, but she died in a crash that summer. She was the only fatality. She wasn't wearing her seatbelt. One of my paranoia reasons. Things like that. The parents are to blame. They did not make sure.

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