「tea.leaf」 Posted August 29, 2008 Report Share Posted August 29, 2008 My girlfriend (or ex' date=' it's complicated, really) is bi, and I don't mind it. Heck, I'm bi, why would I even BEGIN to care? It's a matter of trust for your friend. If they've both invested a lot into their relationship, then they should still be happy together, regardless of her sexuality. I think your friend should have more faith in his girl, and know that she loves him, the same way he loves her. However, if they HAVEN'T been happy as of late, then she might be liable to change partners. Of course, that's just as likely to happen at any point regardless of her sexuality if they've been going through a rough patch. Basically, what I'm trying to say is your friend's girl's change is completely irrelevant to the relationship; if they were fine then, they'll be fine now, opposite is true as well, so don't point any fingers at the sexuality bit if they break up or something. It's best to tell your friend to relax and accept her, it's most likely what she wants too.[/quote'] Q4E (Since she is very much correct about this, as she practically stole all the words from my mouth that I was going to post). When I want to, I can be nice and helpful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Static Posted August 29, 2008 Report Share Posted August 29, 2008 I think your friend should have more faith in his girl' date=' and know that she loves him, the same way he loves her.[/quote'] If he doesn't trust her enough as of now to just let it be, to try and hold it together, but accept what could happen either way, he's probably too caught up in his fear of the unknown, of losing what he feels he put so much into, because he doesn't know how she is. However, talking about it, if she is not really bisexual, and just experiencing a change that has mentally made her willing or desire to change sexuality, then clearly trying to get a more accurate picture of the situation may not end in his favor, achieving the thing he fears will happen. It's not the fact that she is bisexual that he is troubled by, it's that she changed to bisexuality in the middle of his relationship, and he does not know the cause, and fears other percussive effects that could result from the unknown cause. For the record, the rest of your post was solid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Careless Whisper Posted August 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 Thanks peeps. I talked with my friend as soon as I could. At first, he thought I was trying to puch them away from each other, but then he got the point that I was really trying to make sure that he would be happy no matter what happens. It's not the fact that she is Bisexual or anything, infact, she admitted to him that she lied to him about first discovering that she was Bi. She had already known that she was Bi sexual and she had made the mistake in saying that she just figured it out even though she already knew. She told me this herself, and she told him. He was angry at her when she lied to him, because he's like me, he can't stand liars at all. So, I talked to him about this situation, and I told him that he shouldn't care for her sexuality. At first he didn't accept it, until she came over to our conversation. After she figured out that he was really hurt by what she did, she told him that she was very sorry and that she only held small feelings for Cydonia, and that she loved him no matter what. You may lock this thread now that the problem has been resolved. ^.^ ~Meti Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larxene Posted August 31, 2008 Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 No threesomes? :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bloodrun Posted August 31, 2008 Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 i wouldnt mind if she turned.I would mind if she left.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest PikaPerson01 Posted August 31, 2008 Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 Lol, your "friend". Sure. XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WoW Maker Posted August 31, 2008 Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 I had this perfect er statement -_-" I think he was getting sad cuz if she turns onto chicks, she will leave him, which will leave him alone, which will make him emo... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Black Rose Phoenix® Posted August 31, 2008 Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 Don't hide stuff' date=' and it's not bad.[/quote'] Oh absolutely...It's not good to hide stuff.It's ok to be bisexual, it's ok for anything as long as it makes you feel right and happy, you can be anything, usualy, when your told something as personal as that and nobody else knows that, it means they trust you, so she still trusts your "friend", don't worry, shes bi, not gay...she can still like the opposite sex as well as the same... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Careless Whisper Posted August 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2008 Why are you all putting the word 'Friend' in quotations. If your thinking that I only put that concept to hide the real problem having to do with me, then you would be wrong, because I don't even have a GF yet....used to back in April, but not anymore...Anyway, I believe I shall request this to be locked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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