Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 This is VK here. Now, I'm a lonely guy. I admit it. Not a single day has passed that has me wondering, should I go out and find a date? Should I stop fantasizing about spending time with a girl, listening to her and consul her. Encourage or compliment her. Hug and show my repressed need to show affection. Let it all come out like a flood and drown her in attention and love. Sadly, I also have fears. What if she doesn't really like me? What if she is just using me? What if she cheats on me? What if I can't make her happy? What if I can't live up to her expectations and fail her? What if I can't satisfy her? What if she thinks I'm boring and toys with me? What if I revolt her physically, goes out with me, and only use me for emotional support? [spoiler= What I basically look like] [img]http://www.tabletophell.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/Great20Unclean20One20002_preview.jpg[/img] [/spoiler] What if she is stolen away from me by a******s? What if I can't protect her? What if the fact that I'm bellow average means she'll just rip out my heart and tear it to pieces? All these fears keep nagging at me. Telling me I can't never make a woman no easy to please happy. So I just keep to myself. Listening to my female friends and try to comfort them when their boyfriends neglect them. Helping them out when they ask me and assuring them that they don't need to pay me back. (Note, this is in real life.) I go online to the interwebz and read about how great and wonderful being in love is like. Only to find out about how the darker sides like how women apparently are more attracted to douchebags, men are more likely to cheat on their girlfriends and wives, and the like. Not to mention the constant nagging, mocking, and patronizing voices in my head telling me how I can't even satisfy an animal, let alone a woman. So, YCM. In my free time, tell me about your relationship to your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, and the like. Honestly, I'm interested. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the truth about being in love. Is it worth going out? Or should I just stay single and enjoy bachelorhood? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.Starrk Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Before you think you look like an abomination, I would just abandon that. I highly doubt that. Any girl would be lucky to have you. Just take a leap of faith once and a while even if you fail. I've been in a relationship for about a year now. We live 3 hours away from each other yet I always get to see her on the weekends. Everything works out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~ P O L A R I S ~ Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Just buy one. :S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larxene Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Yes you should go find a girlfriend. Staying here on YCM is not helping. At all. So ronery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Saying a Great Unclean One is ugly is like saying nature is hideous. Though from the response from girls I get IRL..... None the less. My fears still stand. I'm a bellow average guy so most likely she'll cheat on me. That and I'm quite.... poor. So that'll help. I'm nothing you'd want to look at. Anyhow, enough about me. I'm more or less interested in the daily life of couples. @ Polaris: I'm too poor to buy a Mexican or Russian bride! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~ P O L A R I S ~ Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Become a [s]the[/s]rapist! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 I would but I'm too fat to run after all them white women, let alone black or mexican. Jking. Except about the fat part. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~ P O L A R I S ~ Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Looks like you're out of options! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Well at least I've got my hand! *Right hand falls asleep* NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.Starrk Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 [quote name='~Batshit Insane VK~' timestamp='1320298894' post='5614407'] Well at least I've got my hand! *Right hand falls asleep* NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [/quote] left hand is better brah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Use my left? *Falls asleep as well* Forever alone..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greiga Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 Your fears are perfectly and completely normal. Sure, all those things might happen, but maybe they won't. You never know until you try. One thing I tell me friend every other day is to make friends with her. That way you can decide if you really want her, it'll probably improve your chances cuz now she knows you're not an a******, and if she says no then you still made a new friend in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tentacruel Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 I have the same problem, but I'm far too lazy to care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Î’yakuya Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 I have a feeling you're a bit too paranoid. Just go with the flow and when you have the chance, make friends and sooner you'll get a girl. BTW I'm single and I'm proud of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 [quote name='GreigaBeastDS' timestamp='1320315014' post='5614480'] Your fears are perfectly and completely normal. Sure, all those things might happen, but maybe they won't. You never know until you try. One thing I tell me friend every other day is to make friends with her. That way you can decide if you really want her, it'll probably improve your chances cuz now she knows you're not an a******, and if she says no then you still made a new friend in the end. [/quote] Maybe I should try that. Sad part is all the girls I like ether think I'm creepy or think I'm a jerk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yang Xiao-Long Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 [quote name='~Batshit Insane VK~' timestamp='1320359886' post='5615519'] Maybe I should try that. Sad part is all the girls I like ether think I'm creepy or think I'm a jerk. [/quote] Just change how people perceive you then. And if you do, and they don't like you for who you are, then they're not worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brushfire Posted November 3, 2011 Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 I would recommend not bothering at all. It'll save you the pain that you'll inevitably feel when it ends. That's just me being morbid, generally speaking being in a relationship made me happier than I've ever been in my life. But err, things didn't work out and I still have feelings for them, so I end up being unhappy almost every day. Of course some do last forever, but... rarely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Great Unclean One: VK Posted November 3, 2011 Author Report Share Posted November 3, 2011 @ Shizuo: Thing about my last comment, if I approach them to talk, they just think I'm creepy. When I stay quiet and to myself, they think I'm just being a dick or planning something for them. Ether way I lose. @ Brushfire: Sounds logical. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greiga Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 Oh yeah, and don't listen to people named Brushfire. That kind of personality is what made me try to ignore every chance at making friends and made me try my hardest to keep people out. And I greatly regret doing that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I-dreezyAFG Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 drop the "p", add a "t". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greiga Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 Note to self: Don't ask YCM for relationship help. Or any help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brushfire Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 [quote name='GreigaBeastDS' timestamp='1320368329' post='5615840'] Oh yeah, and don't listen to people named Brushfire. That kind of personality is what made me try to ignore every chance at making friends and made me try my hardest to keep people out. And I greatly regret doing that. [/quote] Wow, at least I can tell you failed English. Apparently I am now more than one person, that's pretty cool. I'd also like to point out that what you are referring to is not a 'personality'. It's a personality trait. I'm also not even sure what you said made sense; a negative personality made you fail to make friends? If you're going to knock on how you shouldn't ask people on YCM for help, you should at least not scream that you need help (albeit not from YCM) in your post. That's just silly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greiga Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 [quote name='Brushfire' timestamp='1320369347' post='5615894'] Wow, at least I can tell you failed English. Apparently I am now more than one person, that's pretty cool. I'd also like to point out that what you are referring to is not a 'personality'. It's a personality trait. I'm also not even sure what you said made sense; a negative personality made you fail to make friends? If you're going to knock on how you shouldn't ask people on YCM for help, you should at least not scream that you need help (albeit not from YCM) in your post. That's just silly. [/quote] 1) I didn't fail english. I got a D- four times in a row. There is a huge difference. 2) Would you rather I type "don't listen to people like brushfire" not that it would change the meaning at all. 3) It's quite easy to understand, why do you not get it? 4) When did I scream I needed help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marisa Kirisame-ze Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 I'm head over heels for a girl who's absolutely inspiring, lovely, and alive in every way possible. I can type up a novel about how lovely and amazing she is. I can go through all the little things she does that I can’t get enough of. I can sit here, smiling as I type that novel, thinking about how far I’ve come from just admiring her from afar to gaining the courage to become her friend, and I can laugh at the absurdity of it all - why am [i]I [/i]so lucky to like a girl who’s truly giving me a chance to be someone significant to her? And to be honest, I'll confess to her one day, but if she can't return the feelings, I'll be okay. Eventually. Because although I'd love to be in a relationship with her, it's more important to me that she knows and remembers how much she's done for me. Even if we never talk again, I need her to know that I'm forever changed by who she is and what she meant to me. I want her to feel good about herself, loved, and cared about. But if I'm just so lucky to ever call her my girlfriend, oh goodness, I'll be on top of the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brushfire Posted November 4, 2011 Report Share Posted November 4, 2011 [quote name='GreigaBeastDS' timestamp='1320370014' post='5615918'] 1) I didn't fail english. I got a D- four times in a row. There is a huge difference. 2) Would you rather I type "don't listen to people like brushfire" not that it would change the meaning at all. 3) It's quite easy to understand, why do you not get it? 4) When did I scream I needed help? [/quote] Yeah, I agree, the gap between A* and a D- is increasingly larger than the gap between a D- and a U. Did you fail math too? Oh, of course... an E or above is technically a pass. They really should change that to a C. I would have preferred that yes, at least then I would not be two people. Or some form of ultimate deity. I think I did get it, the wording confused me. Making friends is one thing, getting too close to people is another. I don't plan to do the latter again anytime soon. You didn't, but it was insinuated in the fact that you showed forms of insecurity. The same insecurities that I have too- so not anything too bad, just that you fear(ed) (?) making friends at a point due to that you viewed the world and/or people too negatively. And henceforth the phrase, "you can't trust anyone". Well, except Batman. Pretty sure I'd trust Batman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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