Marriage: the begining of the end or the start of your life?

[Great Unclean One: VK]

[quote name='Zanda Panda' timestamp='1350743615' post='6048843']
I don't know you, so I wouldn't know the reason(s) on why you're so against commitment, but you really come off as a coward when you're shunning relationships for the fact that you [i]might[/i] get hurt.
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Now there are numerous reasons which I was taught throughout my life. Let me just count off my reasons and experiences that made me not want a romantic relationship, romantic being the key word. I'm fine with friends, but not something that f***ing intimate.

1. I'm against getting into relationships since the majority of people (Namely women) aren't themselves committed nor willingly to build a lasting romance. Now, doesn't mean all men or women are like this. Only the growing majority. Now, I know you're suppose to build it over time. Too bad from what I've seen even then women will still terminate it instead of trying to make it work. My feelings about this is reinforced when I found out that 75% of relationships are terminated by women. That and women are much more harsh and judgmental then men. Men on the other hand are more willingly but even then a rare number of men. Sadly our long term relationships couldn't last.

2. In my family, I've been taught about how and possibly why I was born. My mother was just using my father to get the things she wanted and used me and my brothers as leverage before leaving me and my dad broke and on the streets. That's why I haven't seen my brothers for over 10 years until I was 13. Not to mention is was clear that I wasn't even liked by either my parents nor relatives. All except to do menial work for them or to take the blame. Only a few times that actually shown me in their own ways that they liked me being around and find my hobbies weird yet interesting. My youngest uncle in the States got married and then was divorced quickly, his wife taking one of my oldest's uncle's shop, the shop that was used to help keep our family in the upper middle class. Then he married again and left that woman alone and sick. Doesn't help that my Japanese uncle was back stabbed (figuratively) by his wife and has to live with the fact that his own son wasn't his own. He came back to States to my eldest uncle nearly broke and lived with us along with the youngest uncle. I found out that we both enjoy the same beer and cooking....Some what. I don't like him that much, but he's one of my favorites. This experience taught me that both genders are most likely cheating scumbags, not all but most. Doesn't help that I know my older bro cheats on his 16 year old girlfriend all the time.

3. I found out, that my mom, once again left a man on the streets all to get another better man. My old step father was more of a father figure then my own dad. He took me and my brothers and sister fishing, brought us to an arcade/casino/buffet and actually spent the 4th of July with me unlike my biological parents. I listen to his advice more then my own dad.

4. I also see no reason why I should spend or give my money to a "better half" that'll only squander it and demand more then leave me with the realization that I've wasted my time and money which could have been used for something I'd actually enjoy such as programming, casting, learning, or miniature wargaming. Or even helping advance the Singularity and make something meaningful in my life.

5. I was once in a romantic relationship with a girl once and it was good, but sadly we had to end it due to distance of both of us moving. I had a great time but of course when I look at women now, I see nothing but a sea of b****es, whores, cheaters, gold diggers, and psychotic/idiotic women who demand to be treated both, princesses and respectable women who just happen to sleep around.

6. A relationship with people currently around me can't happen due to our different ways of thinking. Example being that I'm seen as more cold, calculative, cowardly, and more strict on things like the military and lax on education. In other words, they hate the fact that I want less spending and more control on the military and more funds on education. They honestly think that'll destroy the U.S. Due to that they hate my guts. Another that I'm more cold hearted then them. When someone murders they say to send that person to jail while I say lethal injection! Why squander our money on convicts that once proven guilty, will only drain our money. Not to mention they trust big business more then me. Doesn't help I'm more liberal on issues on religion, marriage, drugs, etc.

7. Another fact that apparently in my local, learning is seen as a bad thing. Namely learning about the world and other countries. I can't tell you how many times I've been laughed at all because I went and looked up on how other countries are doing compared to the U.S. and finding out how we're losing our grip on the world. That alone made me seen as a social outcast by everyone. They only care about sports, who f***ing who, and how big are each other's dick.

8. Not to mention when I do become social and nice, most people just try to use me. Namely asking for money, favors, and if I could buy them stuff. Not small things like a buck but $50, asking to borrow my car, and if I could get them some stupid s***. Only a few people I've opened up to and became friends namely due to our interests like anime, figures, miniatures, and programming. All they ask is nothing and I give them gifts sometimes. Stuff like 3D modelling programs and s***.

9. Nearly all relationships I've seen end badly. Either in someone cheating on someone, someone leaving someone and taking their stuff, and someone just plain old abusing someone. Worse part is, the cheater or whatever seems nice sometimes. Honestly, I can't f***ing tell these people apart unless their really obvious, say my mother or older bro.

10. Another roadblock is the fact of social worth. Women tend only to go for people who are seen in society to be of high worth so they can inflate their ego. Currently I'm trying to attend a community college (Don't you dare f***ing laugh) while trying to hold down some jobs, one I only like which is working the night shift as a janitor. It doesn't help me hobbies are seen as something bad like miniature wargaming, programming/ game making, and of course, learning college level skills by self teaching them. You honestly thing women would want a janitor college student? They go for someone "worth" something like a jock that can't f***ing tell the difference from a pop up that'll give him a virus to his own anti virus, providing he even has one. Perhaps some guy would date me, but too bad I live in PA where the only gay guy I know is taken. Even then I don't really like him since he's a f***ing racist b****.

11. One other reason is I don't f***ing see the reason why. Woo-hoo! I just spent a s*** ton of cash, time, and energy on having a great time for a partner that I deep down can't really f***ing trust! You know how else I could achieve the same result? Playing f***ing video games, playing table top games/card games, and hanging out with friends I know I could only trust for the basic stuff.

12. Loyalty. One of the things I f***ing find wanting in a relationship and I hardly get. Only 1 time I've seen this in a relationship of mine and she f***ing moved. I'm over that but dear god, nearly all women I've seen are hussies. They f***ing pick up and drop men quicker then a new born with it's toys.

13. Trust. This is my own problem. I for some reason, naturally don't trust people. I don't trust me own f***ing family and in return, they don't f***ing trust me or each other. I was taught this at a young age by my dad and relatives. When ever I got birthday money, my dad ask if he could hold on to it. Being naive I gave him it to hold onto and he gambled it all away or used it for booze. Another being my cousins. They constantly lied to me to the point I naturally don't trust what they say unless it completely and utterly make sense along with evidence. Doesn't help that my cousins also used me as a whipping boy or to blame things on. Who broke the candle holder in the shrine? VK. Who broke the camera? VK. Honestly, I'm used to it now. Doesn't help the punishment was a beating.

14. I'm a dick. Once again one of my problems. Could be that naturally I'm a dick or once again, my family shaped me into this. In my family, you're gonna be a f***ing dick to each other. What's that? The new kid got money? f***ing guilt trip that f***er, threaten him, or trick him into giving you it. Your friend got a s*** ton of YGO cards? Steal his box and feign ignorance. Your younger cousin getting too smart? Destroy his self confidence. Hell, now it's no longer the older kids or adults who are doing this. The newer kids in my family are natural dicks. f***, my younger cousin f***ing b**** slaps everyone including my friends and hides behind his mom. He even f***ing tried to kill my dog and his mom just said he couldn't kill a dog which I call bullshit since he killed my cousin's pet birds. Not to mention this is basically how everyone in my family works. Your brother just got cheated on and drinking himself to death? Remind him how much of a failure he is. That's what my dad did. Your son is fat and weak? My oldest uncle does this to my dad and brings me in for everyone to laugh at. Someone got into a car crash? Talk s*** behind her back. Got a bottle of whiskey from your neighbors? Talk s*** about them being rich snobs who should go to hell. Let someone borrow money from you? Talk s*** about that person is a poor dickwad.

15. I naturally question people's motives when they talk or ask me something. Someone asks me what I like, I wonder if they're just bored, want to be friends, or just want to find something embarrassing to spread around. This even leads to things like where I live. Are they asking to see if I live somewhere nice so they could mooch off of me? Are they planning to egg the s*** out of my home?

[Sunshine Jesse]

[quote name='Gue'O VK' timestamp='1350767964' post='6049198']
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Good lord, man, there are so many assumptions in that post that it's ridiculous

Honestly your problems seem completely unnatural and you should probably talk to a professional about them. They literally do not seem healthy

I honestly don't think you've ever really romantically loved someone before, because a lot of your problems there would seem "worth it" if you have, at least to me.

[Great Unclean One: VK]

Nonsense. I've lived happily like this so far and I plan on continuing as such. I have only a few friends and not a metric f*** ton like my family and that's much more manageable then having Lord knows how many.

I honestly don't see why you think I should go get help if I have a small trust issue with people. Not to mention as I've said countless time, I don't really see romance as worth the effort if it'll all be for nothing. That could be time and energy teaching myself programming, modelling, and map making.

[Sunshine Jesse]

[quote name='Gue'O VK' timestamp='1350786636' post='6049413']
Nonsense. I've lived happily like this so far and I plan on continuing as such. I have only a few friends and not a metric f*** ton like my family and that's much more manageable then having Lord knows how many.

I honestly don't see why you think I should go get help if I have a small trust issue with people. Not to mention as I've said countless time, I don't really see romance as worth the effort if it'll all be for nothing. That could be time and energy teaching myself programming, modelling, and map making.
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I don't think you'll hold that opinion forever

But who knows. Maybe you'll be lucky enough to never incidentally fall in love. Let me tell you, it changes perspective

[Great Unclean One: VK]

[quote name='Nightmare Zarkus' timestamp='1350802472' post='6049618']
I don't think you'll hold that opinion forever

But who knows. Maybe you'll be lucky enough to never incidentally fall in love. Let me tell you, it changes perspective
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The only problem I see in the future is in Christmas, and statistically speaking, most loners commit suicide during those times. Then again, as long as I have my hobbies, I should be fine. Then again, by the time I move out, educated, trained, and alone during the holidays, I'd have a decently powerful PC to help me begin making the grounds for my first game. Though, if HP Lovecraft could survive being alone, I supposed I could. Of course, all that time alone could mean I can enjoy some porn. Namely black, Mexican or Arabic women. Knowing me, I'll make friends very slowly and even then, most likely I'll agree not to bug them during the holidays leaving me with my favorite past times.

Other then Christmas, I see no problems. In fact, I might be envied by my friends who are taken due to my unrestricted freedom. Then again, anyone who envies me is a complete moron.

[Sunshine Jesse]

[quote name='Gue'O VK' timestamp='1350803428' post='6049624']
The only problem I see in the future is in Christmas, and statistically speaking, most loners commit suicide during those times. Then again, as long as I have my hobbies, I should be fine. Then again, by the time I move out, educated, trained, and alone during the holidays, I'd have a decently powerful PC to help me begin making the grounds for my first game. Though, if HP Lovecraft could survive being alone, I supposed I could. Of course, all that time alone could mean I can enjoy some porn. Namely black, Mexican or Arabic women. Knowing me, I'll make friends very slowly and even then, most likely I'll agree not to bug them during the holidays leaving me with my favorite past times.

Other then Christmas, I see no problems. In fact, I might be envied by my friends who are taken due to my unrestricted freedom. Then again, anyone who envies me is a complete moron.
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That's not actually true
Suicide rates go down during Christmas

And implying that "unrestricted freedom" is something enviable is just incorrect. If you're with someone but find said freedom something to be desired, you're flat-out doing love wrong

And yes, trust issues with people is actually a pretty severe problem, especially if you can't effectively fake trust

[Great Unclean One: VK]

Hmmm. I must have outdated info then. Also, I'd say my trust issue is small. As long as I can trust people to do their work or end of their bargain, I'll be fine in life. Though honestly, I find it quite alien how people could trust someone as people who are married or in love could. It doesn't seem wise at all.