Smear Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 Now I know half of you are going to be useless but I have a problem. My friend who I've been like besties with for like over 2 years now told me on new years that she's in love with me and can't speak to me anymore. And this wouldnt be bad if I wasn't already in a relationship. The relationship I'm in btw is the most perfect thing ever and I wouldn't give it up for the world, which kinda makes the problem worse. I feel horrible because if I was in her shoes I would feel so shit. I want her to be with someone because I'm best friends with her and I feel bad because I'm in a relationship. I just want to talk to my friend but shes kinda cut me out of her life completely. What do I do I feel bad and want to talk to her but can't ffs ycm help u twats Btw feel free to ignore bc this is 3:30am venting that I needed to say before I died Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 Well at least she left on good terms, if you wanna call it that. A few years ago I lost a friend after a verbal fight, and despite my sincere feelings for her, she despises me more than anything and blocked every form of communication from me. Knowing I can't truly apologize let alone have her forgiveness is the worst feeling I've ever felt, and I still have dreams of her, which doesn't help. I've come to not let it bother me over the years, but when I break into a verbal rage from frustration, it usually ends up with me reliving that argument, just with words that I wish I said and with a better outcome. Letting go of someone is hard, there's no denying that. I speak for both you and her, so if I were you, I'd respect her devotion to avoiding you by just giving her space. Hang in there, bro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 You're posting personal relationship shit on a fucking yugioh forum, what do you expect. I'll help you out kido, seeing as though we're m8's and because every other post is surely going to feature an extraordinary amount of white knight bullshit. Firstly, she didn't cut you off, what she's trying to do is force you to go after her. Secondly, this isn't your problem, that chick needs to grow the fuck up. You start off by telling her to calm the fuck down, people can be friends even if they want to fuck one another. Then you explain to her what it is you want because clearly she's confused as fuck and by playing to what she wants you're only going to end up farther down this spiral of immature idiocy. If she still keeps this shit up after that then just forget about it, she's eventually going to realize that it can't be her way and then she'll come back and abide by your terms. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tormented Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 step 1) send her facebook my way step 2) let tormey boy sass her up with the brit shit step 3) ask if she is down for threesomes step 4) then move onto foursomes step 5)? step 6) profitttt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chairman ali Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 Let it go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 step 1) send her facebook my way step 2) let tormey boy sass her up with the brit shit step 3) ask if she is down for threesomes step 4) then move onto foursomes step 5)? step 6) profitttt Please tell me I'm not the only one who desperately wants to see this kid pickup a girl and "sass her up with the brit shit." Smear, make that shit happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tormented Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 yo you don't know kid, I've got like 2 canadian grills clambering for my peepee and at least one american. I'm a swashbuckling swagger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slinky Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 Worst case scenario: She secretly just wants to get away from you, and used that as an excuse to do so. I've seen it happen, not to this much extreme of course, but I wouldn't doubt it. Before making the next move, you should be absolutely positive she meant it, or if she does just want to distance herself. Either way, its a lose-lose situation for you. You either lose the wonderful relationship you currently have, or you lose your bestie. This is not fun in any way, and you should tread with caution, because make one wrong move, and you'll lose both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddamnit names are a pain Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 because make one wrong move, and you'll lose both. every other post is surely going to feature an extraordinary amount of white knight bullshit. Seriously though, I'm pretty damn sure he's keeping the girl he already has, according to the OP. Just make it clear to her that you already have someone else (probably not LITERALLY the way I'm saying it, but…), but that she's still one of your "besties". Any real friend would still stick around or come back once they're collected again. At the same time…do what you think is right. I know that sounds like bullshit, but…make the decision YOU think is correct. You don't want to regret making a choice that wasn't even yours to begin with, if that makes any sense. But yeah, I'm probably sounding like a nut job. Hope this somehow did something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 You don't want to regret making a choice that wasn't even yours to begin with, if that makes any sense. Genuinely a good point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 The fact that she's forcing you to choose between your current girlfriend and her is a red flag. Regardless, her feelings are probably valid, and she might not realize exactly what she's doing. Lord knows I've lusted after people the same way, and I was fucking blind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agro Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 As a manipulative prick myself, I pretty much know how she feels. So call her out on it. She's being dumb. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slinky Posted January 13, 2015 Report Share Posted January 13, 2015 Lord knows I've lusted after people the same way, and I was fucking blind. Giggity Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goddamnit names are a pain Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 This ALSO may sound stupid, but- I think confessing, despite knowing/predicting the end result and everything in-between, will actually allow this person to move on. I personally hate the idea of suppressing my feelings for ages without the person I like knowing, even if they have someone else. With this, progress, whether good or bad, can be made. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LordCowCowCowCowCowCowCowCow Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 Why wasn't this just locked after Night's post? It basically said all that really needed to be said. Hope everything works out. Much love. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tormented Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 because this is misc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LordCowCowCowCowCowCowCowCow Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 Well I know the literal answer. Cow is bad with humor, sorry. >.> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smear Posted January 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 im surprised by how many serious replies there are considering this is misc thanks guys. so i spoke to her and we were talking for about 3 hours, and then she said she regrets talking to me again so thats cool. not really sure what to do now. should i just leave her to idk gather her thoughts or whatever the fuck reason she cant speak to me for Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tormented Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 wtf my idea was serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted January 14, 2015 Report Share Posted January 14, 2015 Leave her to gather her thoughts. Eventually, she'll try and talk to you again - if she really cherishes your friendship. She's probably hurt, and can't see why her feelings are problematic. It does take time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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