The dating advice thread!!

[~UNHOLY_PHOENIX~]

Well, we've had LOTS of gf/bf threads in Polls lately, but many of us (myself included) have turned them into advice threads. I feel like this is a better idea.

 

So, feel free to ask anyone a question, and get advice, or even post methods involved with dating. Do whatever, basically...;)

[CinnamonStar]

Well I have a small issue with finding someone who can hold on to my rhythm. I'm always told that I'm too complicated for most of the guys.=/

The other thing is that I'm kind of shy. I have a smaller group of really great friends in real life, but generally speaking, I have difficulties with getting to know people.

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Ehm I don't expect to get any magical solution to this, but I would assume that I'm not the only one stuck with this...:P

[Jesus]

Unfortunatly for me, I'm extremely, extremely shy. I have no idea whatsoever to get over shyness, and me; just recovering from breakup; I'm extremely iffy now. I've always liked this one neighbor girl, and recently she just decidedly started talking to me. Out of the blue. No apparent reason. So It would be nice If I knew the right time to ask her.

 

Also, my ex-girlfriend broke up with me because she couldn't come over my house. The reason my parents said No was because my Grandmother was dying, and it was a bad time for them. So she broke up with me and now she is purposly ignoring me, so basicly I'm really sad about this, and I do want to get back together with her.

 

So I need to know a few things:

 

1) What would be a good time to ask the neighbor girl, and what should I say:

2) What should I do about getting my ex-girlfriend to talk to me

3) If she does manage to talk to me, what should I do to get her to go back out with me

4) Should I give up on my ex-girlfriend and move to the neighbor girl, or would I have a better chance with my ex-girlfriend?

 

Please help.

[Catman25]

I'm no expert, but for 1. you could get to know her better, and maybe ask her to hang out sometime during one of conversations.

 

And I suggest for 4 that you move on, maybe move on to your neighbor.

[ragnarok1945]

being shy I'm still unsure if when you try to know her better it's when she's alone or with her friends (don't want to make a fool of yourself)

[joe.7100]

That doesn’t seem like a very nice thing to do to me! I mean, did your ex-girlfriend know your grandmother was dying? Because if she did then there is no reason whatsoever to be mad at you and if she still was, well, then … I’m sorry to say she wasn’t worth it, and you should move on to your neighbor, who I’m sure is a nice girl. I’m still amazed at how someone would do something like what your ex did.

[ragnarok1945]

yeah that's another thing, make sure your gf actually cares about your priorities

[Jesus]

That doesn’t seem like a very nice thing to do to me! I mean' date=' did your ex-girlfriend know your grandmother was dying? Because if she did then there is no reason whatsoever to be mad at you and if she still was, well, then … I’m sorry to say she wasn’t worth it, and you should move on to your neighbor, who I’m sure is a nice girl. I’m still amazed at how someone would do something like what your ex did.

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Yeah she knew.

 

Thanks for the advice guys, but I'm still not sure on what to do. Maybe if guys explained it a lil better?

[ragnarok1945]

well first off, have you gotten over your ex yet?

[Silver Lining]

I say really random and stupid things when I'm around this person. It's really embarrassing and we've only gone out for a day. I know WHY it's happening but I just can't figure out how to fix it. Any help?

[ragnarok1945]

well right now one day is too early to tell. Does this person like you for saying such things?

[JRKinky]

 

 

Yeah she knew.

 

Thanks for the advice guys' date=' but I'm still not sure on what to do. Maybe if guys explained it a lil better?

[/quote']

 

Well, what you mean if guys explained it a little better?

 

And seeing as I am a guy, I'd say move on. Try going out on a couple dates with the neighbor girl. If your ex was mad at you and knew that your grandmother was dying, then that is pretty lame. You shouldnt be treated like that, especially for a situation that is not in your control. If she truly cared for you, then she would have understood what was going on and not acted the way she did.

[Silver Lining]

well right now one day is too early to tell. Does this person like you for saying such things?

 

I can't really tell. It doesn't seem like it.

[Luna Lovegood]

I just found out this girl I used to like likes me, but I don't know if I still like her. What to do?

[-Berserker-]

I say really random and stupid things when I'm around this person. It's really embarrassing and we've only gone out for a day. I know WHY it's happening but I just can't figure out how to fix it. Any help?

 

I have the same problem sometimes. I just try to speak less (O sino me salen muchas tonterias)

[Father Wolf]

what ever happened to the good old days where u could nock out a woman and take her back to the cave.

 

can i get a here here!

[ragnarok1945]

those days relationships were too simple and now only portrayed on TV

[JRKinky]

what ever happened to the good old days where u could nock out a woman and take her back to the cave.

 

can i get a here here!

 

I'm pretty sure women love being treated with respect and as equals in todays world :)

[ragnarok1945]

isn't that the truth, and not a single of of my friends treat their gf any other way :)

[JRKinky]

Which is how it should be :) I may not have a gf, but I am in a relationship. And I have always believed my friends (all the girls) should be treated with respect and as equals...and should be pampered by their man :) (I'm the romantic type of guy if you cant tell :) )

[ragnarok1945]

being pampered was something that a lot of people I know took into question as they felt you do this and they'll simply take advantage of you

[JRKinky]

not me...with my partner, I give massages (since thats what I'm going to college for), cook special dinners, buy flowers.....I hate when people "pamper" someone just to take advantage. I just wanna smack them!

[Father Wolf]

what ever happened to the good old days where u could nock out a woman and take her back to the cave.

 

can i get a here here!

 

I'm pretty sure women love being treated with respect and as equals in todays world :)

 

equality i give u. respect u have to earn. they are 2 different things. most the wemon i have dated loved when i degraded them... to a point at special times but that children is a story for another time.

[armageddon08]

I haven't gone out with anyone yet because I don't know how to approach them. I'm also affraid that if I try to ask someone out, they'll reject me and tell their friends about it, making me the laughingstock of the school. What should I do?

[vampire's fangs]

Well I have a small issue with finding someone who can hold on to my rhythm. I'm always told that I'm too complicated for most of the guys.=/

The other thing is that I'm kind of shy. I have a smaller group of really great friends in real life' date=' but generally speaking, I have difficulties with getting to know people.

...

Ehm I don't expect to get any magical solution to this, but I would assume that I'm not the only one stuck with this...:P

[/quote']

 

i read your bio and yah your pretty complicated... my advice is to not say all of that on a first date let it go slowly.use ur shyness and dont say a lot of it only answer wen a guy asks and dont talk for five hours we men hate that. and as for ur shyness, well... oo i no practice asking the guy out in your mirror or to ur friends but do not send ur freind to ask that usually wants them to say no more.