The Amazing Avian Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I'm in a bit of a predicament right now with a girl who I've known for years. I like her, and I'm definitely an improvement over the last few guys she dated. Not in terms of physical appearance, but actually caring about her. They gave her a lot of s*** to deal with and one of them is still giving her s*** after about a year. I asked her out last year and she shot me down because she only saw me as a friend. Recently we've been getting closer and I wanted to make a move, but I know she still sees me the same way. My cousin gave me advice on escaping the friend zone, but to me it sounded like if I did it I would end up becoming a manipulative douchebag. So can I escape the friend zone without becoming a manipulative douche? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 What the hell is the friend zone? I never got it. If she doesn't want to date you, don't push it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CDDRodrigo Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I do not wait. I go ahead and say it. Girls like direct and determined guys. At least the best girls that is. Not the duck faces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Friend Zones? Yeah, you have to be thinking about things, but I know nothing of it really. You have to understand that if you act like a friend and not a boyfriend, you are nothing more than a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clair Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 It doesn't hurt to try... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KuroKibo Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Friend...zone? Personally I'd go ahead and give it a shot, see how her reaction is. You may be nervous at first but once you get over it things are seemingly a bit easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Limited Edition KING Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 I believe it's possible to escape the friend zone, but it's very hard to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Death Metal Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 You gotta be assertive and direct in a way that doesn't make you look like a controlling dick but you also gotta tell her how you feel without sounding like a little touchy emo kid. That's all I can tell you, if that doesn't work then move on to another girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vairocana Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Oh, you're another one of those "nice guys" who just doesn't get why the girl he likes dates so many douchebags. Look, make your interest in her known. If she still isn't in to you- guess what? She's not into you! Maybe you are truly a nice person! Maybe you'd treat her awesome! Doesn't matter, she doesn't want to date you! The "friend zone" is bullshit. It's not that she can only see you as a friend, it's that she isn't attracted to you in that way. You need to accept that and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ｍｒ．Ｒｏｂｏｔ Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Maybe you should stop being that "dependable guy" so she would stop think you as a friend and more as a guy she know. That usually work. It's better to date a girl you know more than dating a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THROWDOWN Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Escape ropes are a great bet. You could also use dig. Basically; if she doesn't want to date you there's not much you can do about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John A. Zoidberg Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 The whole "friendzone" thing is absolutely moronic. Just because you're nice to a girl/guy doesn't mean they're obligated to date you. Seriously. I get that people are angry that a girl/guy just wants to be friends, but the mentality of "I'm nice to you so you should totally date me, right?" is just plain stupid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BehindTheMask Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Date her best friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mehmani Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Yugioh Card Maker Forum - providing poor relationship advice and self-depreciating humour to lovestruck friend-zoners since 2007. Kill her. I'm a dick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tentacruel Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Yes. And I think you're all making too many assumptions. Maybe she is into him. Or maybe not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
❤ Lovely Warrior ❤ Posted March 25, 2012 Report Share Posted March 25, 2012 Its hard to tell. If I friend zone a boy I usually will get mad if they try asking me out but I'm also the single lady type I'm not much of a dater. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lt. Colonel Remo Posted March 26, 2012 Report Share Posted March 26, 2012 I'm usually the guy that [i]does[/i] the friendzoning xD But yeah, you should figure out her preferences, love map etc. or just do what Rod said and be direct Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catman25 Posted March 26, 2012 Report Share Posted March 26, 2012 Being in the friend zone is a predicament? Man, I'd just like to be in a zone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuimicVital Posted March 26, 2012 Report Share Posted March 26, 2012 Ask her out, the most probable scenario is that she still doesn't want. But you can always try in cse things have changed. PS: Grow some balls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catterjune Posted March 26, 2012 Report Share Posted March 26, 2012 http://www.cracked.com/blog/crackeds-reluctant-advice-how-to-get-girls-to-like-you/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous00 Posted March 28, 2012 Report Share Posted March 28, 2012 It is impossible to escape the friendzone, trust me. Once you are in, you are in. You may think of yourself as a nice and caring guy, but trust me, girls may say that they want a nice guy, but when they find one they only want to be friends with them. The only way to get a girl is to act as a manipulative douche, maybe only in the beginning to make her like you, then you can be nice to her and treat her well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuimicVital Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 [quote name='Anonymous00' timestamp='1332970982' post='5892829'] It is impossible to escape the friendzone, trust me. Once you are in, you are in. You may think of yourself as a nice and caring guy, but trust me, girls may say that they want a nice guy, but when they find one they only want to be friends with them. The only way to get a girl is to act as a manipulative douche, maybe only in the beginning to make her like you, then you can be nice to her and treat her well. [/quote] Every mind is a world, there are many different scenarios. You may be lucky and escape or just get tired and give up, consequently getting someone else. Or maybe just end up as a fat loner playing video games all day with "VIRGIN" written all over your fronthead. Just please don't state everything as a fact. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miror B Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 [quote name='♣ ÇhrÍstmás ΤЯξЄ ♣' timestamp='1332986119' post='5893202'] Every mind is a world, there are many different scenarios. You may be lucky and escape or just get tired and give up, consequently getting someone else. Or maybe just end up as a fat loner playing video games all day with "VIRGIN" written all over your fronthead. Just please don't state everything as a fact. [/quote] Then why are we arguing in the first place? If there's no answer why should we ask the question? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vairocana Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 [quote name='Tsukasa Hiiragi' timestamp='1332990004' post='5893265'] Then why are we arguing in the first place? If there's no answer why should we ask the question? [/quote] [img]http://www.valleyadvocate.com/blogs/gallery/Socrates1.jpg[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~ P O L A R I S ~ Posted March 29, 2012 Report Share Posted March 29, 2012 [quote name='Tsukasa Hiiragi' timestamp='1332990004' post='5893265'] Then why are we arguing in the first place? If there's no answer why should we ask the question? [/quote] The quote you responded to doesn't say that there's no answer, but that there're different answers for different people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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