Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 22, 2012 Report Share Posted July 22, 2012 In moderation, it can be used for self reflection. However, too much has bad effects. This thread was made in direct relation to Alice's love of solitude. Discuss solitude and its effects on humans. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Death Metal Posted July 22, 2012 Report Share Posted July 22, 2012 The only time I'm not alone is when I'm with my girlfriend or on the rare occasions that my friends come over. I actually prefer the time to myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CinnamonStar Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 I tend to view solitude as a more negative level of loneliness or "being on your own", which aren't nearly that bad. I like eating out, going window-shopping etc. on my own, not sure why I'd need someone to do that (and who might complain about weight and stuff all the time while I just want to enjoy my food @.@). Going out on weekends is definitely better with more people though, the more, the better. But if I don't find anyone, it already happened that I just dressed up Agejo/Hime-style like hell and went out dancing on my own then.^^' But solitude is nice to some extent, like you said. Most people need to take some steps aside sometimes and reflect on things, but if it becomes too heavy to bear, it isn't constructive anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brushfire Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 [quote name='Cinnamon Star' timestamp='1343002348' post='5985933'] I like eating out [/quote] Me too. Right. Sorry. Had to. Was very immature of me. In all seriousness... I think that solitude can be a necessity for some people, for me personally I certainly think it's needed every now and then. As much as I love my friends everyone needs that time alone so that they can relax and sort their thoughts out a little bit. I also agree that having too much of it can be problematic; having no company but your thoughts is a path to depression if you mostly have negative thought processes when you're alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gαr Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 Everyone needs to escape reality every now and then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 Allow me to toss in Solitary Confinement. Possibly the worst thing a man could do to another man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Althemia Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 To quote the best anime character ever: "I am a being of solitude! I would have it no other way!" This basically sums up my thoughts on solitude. Solitude means that you have no-one else to pin the blame on and you can thoroughly work on bettering yourself as it is easier to identify your flaws / no scapegoats. You also have the best person to confide in in this world: yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 Unfortunately, solitude doesn't have a good light in society. Mainly because we consider ourselves social creatures, which in turn leaves the solitary people look at if something was wrong with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desu the Blue Nerd Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 [quote name='monsieur Strikeman' timestamp='1343004351' post='5985955'] Unfortunately, solitude doesn't have a good light in society. Mainly because we consider ourselves social creatures, which in turn leaves the solitary people look at if something was wrong with them. [/quote] [color=#0000CD]We don't CONSIDER ourselves to be social creatures. We ARE social creatures. Sure, there may be some sort of social stigma against people that do nothing with others and prefer being by themselves and yeah, there are people like that but generally speaking they're most likely going to have problems in a society that requires a decent amount of social[/color][color=#0000CD] skills.[/color] [color=#0000CD]Now the thing is there's absolutely nothing wrong with being by yourself every so often. Sometimes people need a break from others and just want a little alone time to play video games, read, fish, etc but too much solitude can actually have very negative effects on a human because, you guessed it, we're social creatures. We tend to require interaction with others to even just live.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CinnamonStar Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 [quote name='monsieur Strikeman' timestamp='1343004351' post='5985955'] Unfortunately, solitude doesn't have a good light in society. Mainly because we consider ourselves social creatures, which in turn leaves the solitary people look at if something was wrong with them. [/quote] Dunno, what people tend to forget is that "solitude" is a subjective term. What may seem like "oh noes" resp. "yay, so lonely" to some can be completely normal for someone else. Hence why I prefer to refer to it as "being on my own" instead of "solitude". I also tend to keep being "alone" and being "lonely" apart, but meh. Personal experience, I guess. I also doubt that any of you on this site have no one to do things with and just talk to the walls all day. Resp. the whole "being alone in a huge crowd/world" thing, but that's common sense, I guess. (EDIT: Although yeah, I do get that most of us who post so much on this site can't have a huge social life.=P) As for the society thing, honestly I've rather had the feeling that most people nowadays want to be on their own and do their own thing, don't even talk to me, kthx. On the other side, certain activities being done on your own (like eating out for example, you know =D) are still looked at weirdly when you're not surrounded by someone else. Not sure why that is, but people tend to go all loser or u-have-no-friends on others for little reason. There doesn't seem to be anything wrong in most people's eyes with going fishing or playing video games on your own though. Taking yourself out on a date or sweeping the dancefloor all alone however... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitty Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 I prefer doing things by myself rather than with people. I'm not really good with groups at all and I tend to shy away from a large crowd of people that I don't know. (Only exception is when I'm in my county and surrounded by that people I grew up with). I mean I don't hang with any of my friends nor do I have any contact with them outside of school. And since I've graduated now, I probably won't see them again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 TBH, I'm consider myself the loner of my group of friends. Mainly because I keep my feelings to myself save those I absolutely trust. People consider me outgoing, but I rarely see myself as that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fusion X. Denver Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 I'm used to being able to entertain myself, though it's nice to have fun with your friends. I don't think I'd be able to handle chilling with them every day of the week though, like my cousin does. I'd feel smothered and I'd probably have more problems with my family since I wouldn't be home more often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 The reason I hate other people is that, most of the time, they're going to be complaining about something. I... this might be hypocritical of me, but unless I really like the person, don't truly like listening to that 24/7, which has given me problems with some of my more obsessive friends. Also, I love my space... if you try to intrude on that one thing I hold most dearly, I'm probably going to go out of my way to avoid you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thar Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 I enjoy being alone. Nice and quiet. But I do enjoy hanging out with friends occasionally. My only excuse to not do so is if what they're doing doesn't interest me. I myself prefer something like a movie night or video game sesh, but if it's something like a rave or a night of dares, or even just a little hangout with nothing but chatting all day, then I refuse to go. I'm just more of a doer than a talker. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 Welcome to my world, Thar. I often find that I don't have much in common with my friends in terms of talking. It's just how I've been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTFauKorean Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 me personally I like company, but there are times when you need a little alone time for example, my girlfriend does not consider, Jacking off to internet porn of other women "cheating" definitely gonna want my alone time for that.... okay bad example the point is you need a balance, the ratio in which you divide your attention towards yourself or society is up to you some of my friends are like frekin vampires/ghouls/ w.e the f*** - haven't seen sunlight in days - pale - eats potato chips breakfast, lunch and dinner - video games -will not pick up calls - jacks off - dislikes human contact on MMOs and yet every now and then he'll come out as a day walker, because a******s like me don't respect their lifestyle XD, nah nah but he doesn't seem to mind because he really does need it every once in a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yasu Posted July 23, 2012 Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 I am naturally an unsocial being, as for I am long above you dirty humans. A god like me has no need for such a thing like 'socialisation'... uguu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 23, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 23, 2012 [quote name='Yasu' timestamp='1343079849' post='5986637'] I am naturally an unsocial being, as for I am long above you dirty humans. A god like me has no need for such a thing like 'socialisation'... uguu [/quote] Tristan will love to meet you. You two would be best friends in a lonely world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Î’yakuya Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 [img]http://oi50.tinypic.com/200pb2e.jpg[/img] This pretty much sums everything up for me. Usually, I like being social as possible, but I choose solitude most of the time because it gives me time to seclude from society and relax without having to deal with the troubles or concerns of others. Pretty much yourself is your best friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yasu Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 In all seriousness, I'm struggling with avoidant personality disorder... I try to act all cool and confident in attempt to mask my low self esteem without looking too much like a try-hard. I greatly enjoy the company of others, but I don't depend on anyone (other than my mom, lol) as I'm already used to do things the hard way, alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atomix Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 I prefer solitude, helps me think about things. It's a choice, I can leave whenever I want to, my friends however have chosen solitude too, when not in school, I only see them about once a month so there isn't much for me to do outside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miror B Posted July 24, 2012 Report Share Posted July 24, 2012 [quote name='★ C.C. ★' timestamp='1343054160' post='5986305'] Also, I love my space... if you try to intrude on that one thing I hold most dearly, I'm probably going to go out of my way to avoid you. [/quote] I love your space too... js... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clair Posted July 25, 2012 Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 To be honest, I hate being alone. [img]http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m48krcbewk1r3zat8.png[/img] LOVE ME GUYS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 25, 2012 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2012 [quote name='Clair' timestamp='1343245322' post='5988819'] To be honest, I hate being alone. [img]http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m48krcbewk1r3zat8.png[/img] LOVE ME GUYS [/quote] GIVE ME A HUG GIRL. I mean, do you need a hug? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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