Proposing

[D.A._Sakuyamon]

Last night she did a little something special in giving me the ring. :3 Here's the ring. <3

 

[spoiler=Happiness]

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[Merci]

It looks cute as it is, but I can't see it close enough ;_; can't you take a higher-resolution picture?

 

By the way, how well does it fit? I hear wedding rings are usually tight and uncomfortable, or in other cases too wide that they don't fit the finger.

[D.A._Sakuyamon]

It looks cute as it is, but I can't see it close enough ;_; can't you take a higher-resolution picture?

 

By the way, how well does it fit? I hear wedding rings are usually tight and uncomfortable, or in other cases too wide that they don't fit the finger.

 

It's a mood ring that's been broken so it doesn't actually work anymore. & No it doesn't fit. :\ But that's fine with me cause I can wear it around my neck. :)

[Night]

Disgusting waste of a post.

 

Excuse me? 

[Tourmaline]

Excuse me?

I should elaborate a bit better?
What I meant was that your post was a waste because you said the amount of ignorance in a wholly subjective topic was shocking. I wonder if you'd say the same thing in a topic of who everybody's favorite color or genre of music was, given it isn't ignorant to not enjoy the same genre of music you do.

Either way, it definitely was a waste of a post. You lost time making it and it was so unsupported and pointlessly negative that it was disregarded by people, anyway. I won't say you can't speak your opinion, but I think it's a waste of a post, regardless. Or you could describe what you mean and bring something to the topic? I'd definitely leave it alone after that. Or do you not care enough to describe how you feel? That would still make it a waste beyond stating your opinion, since you're bringing a point that you're not willing to defend nor really care about, anyway. That's a bit of a shame, though. If you have an opinion, you should speak it wholly so people like me don't misinterpret your intention so inaccurately.

Sorry, though. I'm not really a fan of arguing and I'm not exactly sure on how to speak without sounding so rude besides apologizing at the end.

[.Spock]

Lol, Night can't take a little heat from a forumgoer.

 

ITT: Night is a 10 year keyboard bashing mod. ;D

[Tourmaline]

[quote name=".Spock" post="6187730" timestamp="1366907922"]Lol, Night can't take a little heat from a forumgoer.   ITT: Night is a 10 year keyboard bashing mod. ;D[/quote] He's just using ugly pessimism/cynicism. Some people (mostly who aren't completely fine themselves) tend to admire that bad attitude. Lunar Origins, in this case. In terms of Night, it's either a little bit of bigotry or his thoughts were not properly elaborated. Or he's joking, I guess.

[Kyng's Old Account]

While I think marriage is pretty unappealing (at this current moment in my life) I could respect why people engage in such. But in all honesty, I do not believe that one needs a gold ring around their finger to show their love to someone, and I feel that if someone demands a commitment from you to express this love, well they have no conception on what love is.

 

I do not think love is eternal. I take the view that, as we exist in a contingent reality, infinity cannot exist save in hypothetical circumstances or in concept; eternity, by extension, cannot exist in my opinion. Hence, I think marriage is a bad idea.

 

However, this is not to say I think others should not engage in it. The whole area tends to give people such feelings of overwhelming happiness Rogers might attribute to self actualization, and that's a good thing.

 

tl;dr version: everything has goods & bads, this included.

[Night]

I just find it a tad bit annoying and ignorant when teenagers who have probably never even been in a relationship much less a marriage can have any comment on fidelity. Going so far as to tell a sincerely happy man not to revel in his new found contentment because the statistics on divorce rates are evident and then dissuading him from having children. What makes them so knowledgeable on this topic you may ask? Well their parents went through a divorce and now they are experts on the subject.

 

Mind you, I'm 17 and my parents went through a rough divorce while I was still young. However, I would be the last to dissuade anyone from indulging in fidelity nor from having a child because I am not blinded by ignorance merely because my parents had differing ideals. It only makes me more perceptive when dealing with this endeavor and adapted so that one day I'll have a proper family of my own regardless of what some ignorant kid on a forum says or some damn statistics.  

 

But sure, call me the pessimist. 

[.Spock]

I just find it a tad bit annoying and ignorant when teenagers who have probably never even been in a relationship much less a marriage can have any comment on fidelity. Going so far as to tell a sincerely happy man not to revel in his new found contentment because the statistics on divorce rates are evident and then dissuading him from having children. What makes them so knowledgeable on this topic you may ask? Well their parents went through a divorce and now they are experts on the subject.

 

Mind you, I'm 17 and my parents went through a rough divorce while I was still young. However, I would be the last to dissuade anyone from indulging in fidelity nor from having a child because I am not blinded by ignorance merely because my parents had differing ideals. It only makes me more perceptive when dealing with this endeavor and adapted so that one day I'll have a proper family of my own regardless of what some ignorant kid on a forum says or some damn statistics.  

 

But sure, call me the pessimist. 

> Talks about how teenagers who have never been in a relationship can have any comment on fidelity.

> Is 17.

> Comments on fidelity. 

 

Wut. 

 

Asides from that, age is no guarantee of maturity. I went to Uni at a younger age than most people and now I am a video game developer. I'd say I have sufficient life experience to comment on this and a variety of other subjects. Lol. 

[Kyng's Old Account]

> Talks about how teenagers who have never been in a relationship can have any comment on fidelity.
> Is 17. (relationship status?)
> Comments on fidelity. 
 
Wut. 

You see what is missing here?

 

Anyway, let's stop arguing and please discuss the topic at hand, since the arguments offer no real value to this discussion.

[.Spock]

You see what is missing here?

 

Anyway, let's stop arguing and please discuss the topic at hand, since the arguments offer no real value to this discussion.

 My main point is that age is no guarantee of maturity.

 

It still stands.

 

Also forgive me if my initial argument wasn't tightly wrapped, or even void. I haven't eaten since yesterday afternoon, I've been busy working until this point. It is currently 12:57PM here, so... yeah. 

[Kazooie]

 My main point is that age is no guarantee of maturity.

 

It still stands.

 

Also forgive me if my initial argument wasn't tightly wrapped, or even void. I haven't eaten since yesterday afternoon, I've been busy working until this point. It is currently 12:57PM here, so... yeah. 

 

His focus wasn't on the age itself, moreso the fact that they haven't been in a relationship or marriage, which is perfectly valid.

 

For example, all of these posts.

 

 

Personally I consider it a waste of time and money, especially if you're whipped. One moment you're totally in love and want to spend the rest of your life  with her, then a few years later you start having economic problems and end up divorcing and being a part of the 50% divorce rate in America.

 

Love stinks.

 

BECUZ ITS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER AND IT IS LIEK IMPORTANT YOU DO IT THE WAY 90% OF ALL PEOPLE DO EET!

 

LOL I fracking hate marriage. The idea of it pisses me off, everything revolving around it pisses me off. I can't stand the money put into it, I can't stand the longstanding ceremony, I can't stand the priest saying that he has now acknowledged that you two are together in bond, and I can't f*cking stand how the benefits are part of it. Which is funny because money becomes the main thing in divorce's.

 

Oh and 50% of the divorce rate?

How about 50% of prior parent arguments?

How about 50% of kids screaming in their pillow waiting for it to end?

How about 50% of custody battles putting an extreme amount of unneeded attention on an already emotionally unstable child.

How about 50% of f*cking degenerate children because two fracking imbeciles thought it good to argue over who gets the furniture and the dog, and the kid without asking the kid WHO HE WANTS TO BE WITH!?

 

Personally I think you should completely ditch the idea and live a nice life with your girlfriend not buying into this magical, white dress ridden, BS people call marriage. However, I get a feeling that wouldn't get anywhere, so I am just going to say GET HER A RING! However, you already stated you are getting a ring, so I say, go with tradition. Why you might ask? Well, mostly because women hate it when you break tradition in marriage. That, and they always mean the opposite of what they say when they say they are fine.

 

 

Marriage is like a video game. It's pointless, has little to no benefits, and wastes money. 

 

 

 

I seriously doubt any of these people have actually been married, and I'm fairly sure relationship considering how they act, yet here they are telling someone not to get married. What makes them an expert on the matter? Do some marriages fail? Of course, but that doesn't mean they should be going around talking about how pointless marriage is to someone who was just asking a bit of advice.

 

It's just a rude thing to do and I agree with Night here. There's really no reason for them to have posted this shit in this particular thread.

[Great Unclean One: VK]

Congrats!

 

Enjoy the warm fuzzies or what ever you people feel when this happens.

 

 

Just remember, a wedding is a expensive and lengthy affair.  But how old are you two?  How long have you both been together?  I'm quite curious about this.

[Tentacruel]

The amount of ignorance in this thread is revolting.

 

Conflict in opinion =/= ignorance.  That's very ignorant of y*shot*

[Tourmaline]

His focus wasn't on the age itself, moreso the fact that they haven't been in a relationship or marriage, which is perfectly valid.

For example, all of these posts.










I seriously doubt any of these people have actually been married, and I'm fairly sure relationship considering how they act, yet here they are telling someone not to get married. What makes them an expert on the matter? Do some marriages fail? Of course, but that doesn't mean they should be going around talking about how pointless marriage is to someone who was just asking a bit of advice.

It's just a rude thing to do and I agree with Night here. There's really no reason for them to have posted this shit in this particular thread.

Somebody doesn't need certain experiences in a certain topic to make claims about it.

Did you know that smoking is unhealthy for you? I've never touched a cigarette, too!

There's also no reason why they couldn't. It's not very nice to put down how everybody feels about a topic (e.g., you and Night) when it's all based on opinion. That makes any opinion worth dismissing on the more ignorant outlook of harshly ignoring anybody else's opinions. It'd be better to kindly understand what they mean and talk to them about it or ask them to explain it better if you misunderstood or if they poorly explained.

So instead of attacking somebody, make your own point on how you feel. It's a lot better to express yourself than hop onto another's thoughts while being so negative to the others.

Kehehe.

[Great Unclean One: VK]

A marriage is certain to fail due to many many many many variables.

 

Namely compatibility, jobs, finance, etc.

 

Then again, marrying when young or in a young relationship is seldom a good sign unless both parties know what the fuck is going on and gonna happen.

[D.A._Sakuyamon]

I find it funny how everyone technically gets off topic and argues with each other.

 

Yes i did say off topic as the topic is "Your view on how proposing should be done." not "Whether you like marriage or not.".

 

 

So yeah guys, stop fighting. It doesn't really help anyone.

[Kyng's Old Account]

In proposal (teehee) of trying to get this topic back on the rails, anyone heard of any funny/incredible/out of the norm ways of proposals occurring? The only one I know of is this one fellow who, dressed in a sailor's uniform, came to his wife's workplace and got on the one knee, which followed taking (teehee) her home.