You know, I'm getting real sick of how people perceive me

[Great Unclean One: VK]

So YCM.

 

I'm sick and tired of being seen as a push over.

 

Anyone else tired of how they're seen?

[Cin]

Sometimes I feel like that. Especially from work when they then can't get my pay right AGAIN. Only just got my overtime pay from 15/12

[Darth Revan of the Sith]

I am sick and tired of being treated the way I am sometimes, not the way I am perceived, however, I know that won't change no matter what I do.

[Cin]

I had an incident at Xmas where the manager and two of the supervisors both asked me to do over time, one of them grabbed me when I'd just come to check my shifts on Boxing Day and asked me to work 4 hours. (Having had no breakfast), called me a life saver, then never wrote on the time sheets I'd even been there...still claims I was a life saver and I had convince the manager about every since of the extra 14 hours I did. Xmas 2 weeks were awful because of that.

 

I forgave one supervisor, and the manager, but not the other. Felt so used those few weeks. They did say to me they liked people who did extra hours for them....why no offer me upto 12 get me of JSA and we can all be happy...

[Night]

Confidence even if false can go a long way.

[Fusion X. Denver]

That was more me in high school since I felt like I was denied a bunch of chances to even prove I wasn't as dumb as my friends were making me out to be. But I think that changed once we went off to college, gotta treasure those moments we see each other again, you know?

 

I've been there though and it is a crummy feeling. But if your friends are the ones treating you that way, they will stop if you let them know it seriously bothers you (if they're decent people at least).

If they're not your friends, screw them. 

[.Spock]

Confidence even if false can go a long way.

I like NW. He knows life.

 

Pretty much this. 

 

In fact; when I started displaying confidence to others it was false. Things immediately started to get better. People stopped sherking their responsibilities onto me, and my confidence, for real, started to grow. I used to be a complete push-over. 7 years later, I know how to work the system and people don't jerk me around. (as much)

[BehindTheMask]

"I hate how i present myself, so i'm going to pretend people are perceiving my actions as incorrect."

 

Grow up. You need to realize people perceive you the way you present yourself. I used to be a quiet, shy "nice guy" in high school, because I wanted to be that "mysterious dude." Instead people just realized I was a quite shy dude who didn't have friends. I realized this in college, came out of my shell. I changed myself because I realized I was the problem, and the solution. Be the person you want to be.

[.Spock]

^ Remember when people thought you were boxxy? 

 

Anyway. 

 

Have to agree with BTM. Stop whinging and do something about it. People aren't necessarily perceiving how you act as incorrect, you probably are. 

[Kyng's Old Account]

I couldn't give two cents how people perceive me. What matters to me is how I perceive myself. I'm pretty content with myself.

[Agro]

How people perceive you can only be changed through your own actions.

 

The worst thing you can do for yourself is accept that how people perceive you is how you are.

[Mehmani]

Be the person you want to be.

 

This is a far better piece of advice than "Be yourself" - that nonsensical dogma that penetrates the fabric of our popular culture at the moment, where beautiful, rich and talented people sing songs about being yourself and how they were bullied at school and ohmygodainchasickofit?