Cutting

[John A. Zoidberg]

I cut the word "swag" into my arm.

OT: It's stupid. I've had friends who did it, and now looking back on it, they regret every last bit of it. Don't waste your blood, man.

[Mehmani]

Remember: down the road, not across the street!

[GraveHorizon]

If you're doing it to kill yourself, make sure that 1) you really, really, really want to kill yourself and would not regret it at all, and 2) you have the sharpest knife possible. Measure twice, cut once.

If it's for pain/pleasure purposes, you should give soft drugs a try.

[spoiler=Protip]Don't be a coward, choose life. Cutting is dumb.[/spoiler]

[Blake]

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[spoiler=Protip]Don't be a coward, choose life. Cutting is dumb.[/spoiler]
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Protip: Saying things like this to someone who is thinking about it makes them resent you, and makes them want to do it MORE.

[Apostle of Calamity]

[quote name='Yuzuru Otonashi' timestamp='1316984974' post='5540231']
Protip: Saying things like this to someone who is thinking about it makes them resent you, and makes them want to do it MORE.
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So then people hate on you for telling the truth?
You really are a coward if you resort to cutting in hard times.
It doesn't ease the pain it only leaves a scar on you.
Instead of trying to avoid the problems by cutting why don't they find ways to solve it.

[Blake]

[quote name='Eva-Chan' timestamp='1316985143' post='5540234']
So then people hate on you for telling the truth?
You really are a coward if you resort to cutting in hard times.
It doesn't ease the pain it only leaves a scar on you.
Instead of trying to avoid the problems by cutting why don't they find ways to solve it.
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It's all in the tone. People read into tone a lot more than the actual words, usually. If you tell them they're a coward for it, they feel a sense of "I'll show you!" potentially.

You can't solve every problem. Not everything is within your control. Is cutting good? No, I said that in my first post. But you're not dealing with someone who is in a good place, where they can just look around and say "Oh, this is dumb, cutting myself is stupid" if it came to mind.

And, if you call them a coward for thinking about it, they might very well feel even worse about themselves, cut, feel terrible for it, cut, and so on and so forth, and it can escalate.

[Apostle of Calamity]

[quote name='Yuzuru Otonashi' timestamp='1316985590' post='5540244']
It's all in the tone. People read into tone a lot more than the actual words, usually. If you tell them they're a coward for it, they feel a sense of "I'll show you!" potentially.

You can't solve every problem. Not everything is within your control. Is cutting good? No, I said that in my first post. But you're not dealing with someone who is in a good place, where they can just look around and say "Oh, this is dumb, cutting myself is stupid" if it came to mind.

And, if you call them a coward for thinking about it, they might very well feel even worse about themselves, cut, feel terrible for it, cut, and so on and so forth, and it can escalate.
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Okay I get what your saying. I am not very good at being nice. My boyfriend had to convince a lot of people out of suicide and from cutting themselves so he has more experience with this stuff than me.

[GraveHorizon]

[quote name='Yuzuru Otonashi' timestamp='1316985590' post='5540244']
It's all in the tone. People read into tone a lot more than the actual words, usually. If you tell them they're a coward for it, they feel a sense of "I'll show you!" potentially.

You can't solve every problem. Not everything is within your control. Is cutting good? No, I said that in my first post. But you're not dealing with someone who is in a good place, where they can just look around and say "Oh, this is dumb, cutting myself is stupid" if it came to mind.

And, if you call them a coward for thinking about it, they might very well feel even worse about themselves, cut, feel terrible for it, cut, and so on and so forth, and it can escalate.
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I don't mean to sound like a jerk, but cutting really is dumb. In regards to suicide, there are far better ways to go about killing yourself, like drinking anti-freeze (I hear it has a sweet taste), or taking sleeping pills. A much cleaner method than a blade would be a large injection needle, the kind they use for donating blood. Just stick it in and bleed out into a container. No messy clean-up for whoever shows up later, very precise area of effect, and comparably no pain involved. I wouldn't recommend mixing chemicals, because they can make you nauseous and the ride out won't be at all pleasant.

If you're cutting because it feels good/the pain makes you feel alive/you want attention, there are also better alternatives. Simply talking to someone about your feelings is a great start, or even doing something you find fun that doesn't involve self-mutilation. Instead of cutting yourself and waiting for someone to ask what's up with your wrists, offer your hand for them to shake and introduce yourself. Does you like feeling pain? That's probably not good, you should see a professional, or at least try not to draw blood when inflicting pain on yourself.

The solution isn't easy to find if you can't identify the problem to begin with. Suicide? Why? -> [reason] -> all possible solutions -> Did any of them work? -> If yes, good. If no, suicide can be considered as a final solution. Not that it would really fix the problem, but they have to make a choice sometime. If I had found the easiest method of killing myself when I was seriously considering it, I might have done it. But if I had anyone to talk to about how I was feeling, I probably wouldn't have considered it at all. If an individual is presented with an opportunity to find a solution to a problem, it would be smart for them to take that opportunity. Make sure every option is covered before doing something you can't undo.

tl;dr: Think about it some more. Also, not meant to be read in a facetious tone.

Obligatory question to anyone thinking of killing themselves: Why?

[Bob the Rainicorn]

I cut lines often yes.

[Simping For Hina]

I don't cut. I try to get help, but push people away. When I do get help, I do nothing and walk away. They never come to get me. That isn't about me, I was reading 13 Reasons Why!

[Ieyasu Tokugawa]

This is one of the reasons my "Fear of sharp objects penetrating my skin" is a good thing.

[Tentacruel]

Hey Miror B, I have that same phobia! What are the odds?

[Ieyasu Tokugawa]

How intense is yours? Do you go unconcious watching yourself or somebody else get a booster shot?

[Tentacruel]

Damn, when you said you were afraid of sharp objects piercing your skin, you weren't kidding. =p

Tbh, I just recoil in apprehension.

[Bahamut - Envoy of the End]

A few people here who know a me a bit better know that I've been down this road. Former depressive, and former cutter. Yeah, I admit it. Anything you want to say to me then say it, I'll probably ignore you.

Can only speak on and give my personal experience. Cutting never felt good, that's why I did it, as self-punishment and out of self-loathing. My mentality at the time was that I felt it was better that I took it out on me rather than other people. Yes looking back with a clear mind it was stupid to do. But my mind wasn't clear at the time; it was really dark and downright disturbed at times. I'm not saying any of this is good or anything, because it f***ing isn't. But that's the place I was in, I'm not going to lie or deny it.

The important thing for me was finding out what my problems were, how to address them, and taking action. It's been said a hundred times but problems won't go away unless YOU do something about them. That doesn't mean you have to do it alone of course, but don't expect others to do things for you. Its fine taking babysteps and you occasionally falter a little. I did, but I got there in the end and am free from it now.

Things do get better if you work at them. I've now been free of depression for over six months after 4 years of suffering from it. Life gets better every day and I'm thankful I didn't do anything more stupid than what I had done.

The aspect of cutting because it's 'cool' or 'the trend' is a different matter and one that baffles me, and I won't comment on further.

Glad the original poster feels better and has reconsidered.

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Remember: down the road, not across the street!
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... waits patiently for negs to come back. Why post that, just why?

[Tentacruel]

Oh crap, I didn't realize what that meant, but... eww.. O_o

[Ieyasu Tokugawa]

[quote name='Tentacruel' timestamp='1317011746' post='5541452']
Damn, when you said you were afraid of sharp objects piercing your skin, you weren't kidding. =p

Tbh, I just recoil in apprehension.
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Yeah, I can't kid on that. My dad is the same, he even had to leave the room when I got my rods taken out from my foot after breaking my big toe (thank god I didn't watch at the time)

And then when I got my Meningitis shot so I could live in the on campus college apartments, on the drive back I literally got sick and had to stop the car to dry heave outside the door. thankfully it was a 2 minute drive back to the school I was working at, and I immediately took over the nurse's office's bed.

[Cin]

It's good to hear another person who's been in post, at the end of the day, we're the only ones who understand the thought patterns behind it.

It's easy to say people are cowards, that they should talk to someone, but you get into such a place where you don't want people to know, you become ashamed of it and everyday is spent trying to hide where you've done it (I know I've been there for 9 years). I've rarely self harmed for suicide reasons because of my low pain threshold I could never cut deep enough.