Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_div_rat-people-divorce-rate Truthfully with these high divorce rates and the fact that I believe that Marriage is not a love pact, but a Financial Agreement... I hate it but it will never end will it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icy Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 I actually like the idea of marriage. However, I don't care for the financial bonuses for it =/... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cin Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 Not for everyone it isn't. The popularity of prenuptials in celebrity marriages is making it worse, it does then seem all about the money. What about kids? I still believe marriage can be a good thing, but its no longer seeing as the thing you need to do especially in by sectarians. My friend is gonna have to marry in 2 years according to her parents, but she's Hindu, so its more of a must do thing. I think another issue is its not seen as thing you must stay in like with previous generations. Saying that my mum was one divorced and remarried. (before I was born) It's also ALOT easier to get divorced now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Yin' timestamp='1302894763' post='5140665'] Not for everyone it isn't. The popularity of prenuptials in celebrity marriages is making it worse, it does then seem all about the money. What about kids? I still believe marriage can be a good thing, but its no longer seeing as the thing you need to do especially in by sectarians. My friend is gonna have to marry in 2 years according to her parents, but she's Hindu, so its more of a must do thing. I think another issue is its not seen as thing you must stay in like with previous generations. Saying that my mum is one divorced and remarried. (before I was born) [/quote] I think marriage mentally ruins relationships I just feel that people could be partners for the rest of their lives and have children without getting married and they would have a much better life... But then again according to many scholars I am an incurable Jack*ss *Rolls eyes* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icy Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Identity Unknown' timestamp='1302894996' post='5140671'] I think marriage mentally ruins relationships I just feel that people could be partners for the rest of their lives and have children without getting married and they would have a much better life... But then again according to many scholars I am an incurable Jack*ss *Rolls eyes* [/quote] Or you know, it functions as a statement of commitment and devotion on the Grandest of Public Scale, showing that you will go to Grandeur to proclaim your love without shame should the time come to show it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Icyblue' timestamp='1302895084' post='5140675'] Or you know, it functions as a statement of commitment and devotion on the Grandest of Public Scale, showing that you will go to Grandeur to proclaim your love without shame should the time come to show it. [/quote] But why do you need to get married to prove it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icy Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Identity Unknown' timestamp='1302895138' post='5140676'] But why do you need to get married to prove it? [/quote] A celebratory hoorah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Icyblue' timestamp='1302895249' post='5140677'] A celebratory hoorah! [/quote] I just wish we could go back to the ancient ways when there was no marriage and you lived with you partner in peace without having to get married to prove you love that person to a great extent... *sigh* in the end though I might have no choice but to get married... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icy Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Identity Unknown' timestamp='1302895350' post='5140680'] I just wish we could go back to the ancient ways when there was no marriage and you lived with you partner in peace without having to get married to prove you love that person to a great extent... *sigh* in the end though I might have no choice but to get married... [/quote] No one said it was Mandatory. Discuss it with your partner, and choose not to. It's not a do-all, or a do-none. But I do enjoy the idea of it personally. Hell, if my Partner declined a marriage- I would be just as happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cin Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 You might have a choice. Some don't because of religious obligations to be married, and it can be highly ceremonial. It can also be used to build relationships between communities (like in tribes). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Icyblue' timestamp='1302895452' post='5140683'] No one said it was Mandatory. Discuss it with your partner, and choose not to. It's not a do-all, or a do-none. But I do enjoy the idea of it personally. [/quote] I just did just now thanx to you and she believes Im right Thanx Icy! *did not have to discuss much though* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cin Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 Partner of the moment (sorry to be a dampener). In the past so much pressure was put on people marrying and staying together, people nowadays give up sometimes at the smallest hiccup and often don't think it through properly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Yin' timestamp='1302895694' post='5140693'] Partner of the moment (sorry to be a dampener). In the past so much pressure was put on people marrying and staying together, people nowadays give up sometimes at the smallest hiccup and often don't think it through properly. [/quote] Pardon my outright stupidity but I am having trouble understanding your post... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 Marriage isn't overrated, people are just too obsessed with the here and now. Everyone thinks love is that wonderful feeling you get. It's not. that is the obsession known as "Falling in Love". If you stick by them, and CHOOSE to love them after that fades... Well, that's true love. Those are the couples that stick together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Zetsubou Black' timestamp='1302895820' post='5140697'] Everyone thinks love is that wonderful feeling you get. It's not. that is the obsession known as "Falling in Love". If you stick by them, and CHOOSE to love them after that fades... Well, that's true love. Those are the couples that stick together. [/quote] Very true I never plan on marrying and I feel MY *key word is my* relationship would be much better without it... I actually never thought my GF would actually listen and believe my opinion...[s]*NOONE BELIEVES MY OPINIONS! IT IS HERESY!*[/s] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dismal Euphony Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Identity Unknown' timestamp='1302896093' post='5140703'] Very true I never plan on marrying and I feel MY *key word is my* relationship would be much better without it... I actually never thought my GF would actually listen and believe my opinion...[s]*NOONE BELIEVES MY OPINIONS! IT IS HERESY!*[/s] [/quote] Marriage is all personal choice. If you feel your relationship is much better off without marriage, by all means, don't get married. I know many couples that have been together for decades and never went through with a marriage. They were happy just being together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Dismal Euphony' timestamp='1302896583' post='5140722'] I know many couples that have been together for decades and never went through with a marriage. They were happy just being together. [/quote] REALLY!? This is a first for me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dismal Euphony Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Identity Unknown' timestamp='1302896736' post='5140729'] REALLY!? This is a first for me... [/quote] I can't tell if this is sarcasm... But, yeah. My aunt has been with her boyfriend, who I consider my uncle at this point, for about 20 - 25 years now. They're not married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Dismal Euphony' timestamp='1302896999' post='5140741'] I can't tell if this is sarcasm... But, yeah. My aunt has been with her boyfriend, who I consider my uncle at this point, for about 20 - 25 years now. They're not married. [/quote] No I am being quite serious... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flexta McSignals Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 Would You rather be a single person that people think is a creep... or have a lot babymamas or be with a woman that just might be the one. Get'cha head outta the bank and into some common sense boi. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Justice Weller' timestamp='1302908215' post='5141392'] or have a lot babymamas [/quote] Your not going to overpopulate the earth in any way... [quote name='Justice Weller' timestamp='1302908215' post='5141392'] Would You rather be a single person that people think is a creep... [/quote] I vowed never to give a damn what people think of me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FTW (For The Wynn) Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 See, here's the thing. Marriage is not always necessary. I think in Hawaii they allow civil unions, which are basically a couple together without marriage. Josh might know more about it. Anyway, I have a similar view to marriage as I do to college. It's great for a lot of people, but it isn't for everyone. Some people choose to put their career over their love life, and that is perfectly fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Revan of the Sith Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='FTW (For The Wynn)' timestamp='1302910472' post='5141487'] Anyway, I have a similar view to marriage as I do to college. It's great for a lot of people, but it isn't for everyone. Some people choose to put their career over their love life, and that is perfectly fine. [/quote] Its not that I just want to be with my GF and not get married carreers have nothing to do with it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunshine Jesse Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 If you have to get married to form a lifelong bond, then you're doing it horribly wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FTW (For The Wynn) Posted April 15, 2011 Report Share Posted April 15, 2011 [quote name='Nightmare Zarkus' timestamp='1302910578' post='5141493'] If you have to get married to form a lifelong bond, then you're doing it horribly wrong. [/quote] This is true enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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