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Careless Whisper Newbie

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Let her go to him...We obviously can't really stop her unless SHE makes that discision. There's nothing we can do except badger her about it. If she ends up heart broken (And I am so sorry for saying this, I never like saying this, and I wish for the other way) It's what she'd diserve. I am extremely sorry Claire, but if you do become heart broken, it would be because you put your trust in someone you have only met with on the phone and online. You wouldn't know exactly what the truth is...And let me tell you, there are some aspects of what I say on here that I have to say to protect myself from people. It comes naturally online, and I bet there are some people on YCM itself that know that I make occassional lies about myself, YCMaker does...Sense he can read PMs, but he doesn't really care. I know my friend Zoloa knows, because he's one of my best friends in REAL life. And I know that there are other people, but they understand enough to know why I occasionally lie. But don't worry, they are very small lies, nothing too sinister.

 

 

I'm telling you this, because you don't know exactly what he's realy like, you don't know exactly what any of us is really like. You only judged by how we all respect each other online, but you don't know exactly what we sound like. Now I understand that you may have his number and you talk with him on the phone, and that's cool, maybe that is an aspect that he can't really lie over.

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when i first met him, back when we were just friends, he was a bit different than he is now

he admitted 2 lying about a lot of stuff about himself

but since then, hes showed me that he has stopped lying about himself

i no deep in my heart that everything i no about him is true....

dont get me wrong, ive thought about this a lot the past few days

but it just feels right 4 me

ive talked w/my bf about this, and he originally tried 2 talk me out of it, but that he'd understand if i had 2 leave

well, after i decided that i would, i told him, and now he has some huge plan 2 help

and i no that i cant stay w/him 4 more than a few days, so hes also finding me someplace 2 stay

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I recognize this phase. Every person goes through something like this.

Just because your mother isn't perfect to you, doesn't give you an excuse to run away.

Running away is so cowardly, so... lame.

Rather than run from home, how about you try to fix things with your mom rather than run from your problems?

If you start now, this early in your life, you're gonna make it happen more in the future.

So, what're you gonna do when you and mr. boyfriend start having issues? Are you going to run away from him, as well? Where will you go after then?

And what about schooling? An education is essential to LIFE. If you run from home, that means you can't go to your school, and I doubt someone who isn't a parent or legal guardian can register you to school. It's important.

And how do you know he's being honest about who he is?

I mean, the internet is a good place to lie. Heck, I even posted a fake name in my intro thread when I first joined.

It's also a good place to take advantage of troubled young girls looking for an escape from life.

 

That's all you're doing, though--escaping. You can't solve a problem by escaping. If you start now, you're gonna keep escaping. That's not healthy, and honestly, it's stupid. Face your problems, don't run from them.

Your mom may seem evil and mean right now, or whatever, but that's no reason to be running away like a little brat. Reality check: all parents are like that. They worry, and therefore care, and therefore try to protect you, even if they hafta be mean when they do so.

 

And trusting your fate in the hands of some dude you've met on the internet... never a good idea.

Trust me, I've met women on the internet who've lied about everything but their gender. If a woman can do it, then a man is definitely capable of doing it.

I have no idea how old you are, therefore I have no idea of what experiences you may or may not have had yet.

Take it from someone who's experienced life, who's made a ton of stupid choices in his life, mostly in the name of "love".

It ain't worth it.

Just deal with it.

 

You don't know me, and I don't know you. I'm not a friend. I'm not an acquaintance. I'm just as trustworthy as anyone else here. I know you're going to disregard everything I've said.

But consider it. Think about it. And if you still want to make this choice... it's on you.

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Shaddowferret: My words eactly..

And plus...when you're 14, it would be quite easy for a "you-know-what"*Censored because there are alot younger kids here* to take advantage of a situation like this.

 

BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone, and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone' date=' and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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Cutting you some slack on the grammar, I have a question about your statement. You say it's easier to detect lies when you are young than if you were old. Do you seriously believe this?

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And what about schooling? An education is essential to LIFE. If you run from home' date=' that means you can't go to your school, and I doubt someone who isn't a parent or legal guardian can register you to school. It's important.

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My friend ran away to stay with his mom across the U.S. She tried to enroll him in school. That's where they got caught. His name appeared on a list and they knew exactly where he was and everything. No school, no doctor, no anything. What if you broke your leg or something? What then? You wouldn't be able to go to a doctor.

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BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone' date=' and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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Cutting you some slack on the grammar, I have a question about your statement. You say it's easier to detect lies when you are young than if you were old. Do you seriously believe this?

 

Yes...Because younger children have been known to hesitate before they attempt to lie. That's how you can tll a lie from the truth while on the phone..

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BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone' date=' and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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Cutting you some slack on the grammar, I have a question about your statement. You say it's easier to detect lies when you are young than if you were old. Do you seriously believe this?

 

Yes...Because younger children have been known to hesitate before they attempt to lie. That's how you can tll a lie from the truth while on the phone..

But, if the person they're lying to is younge, then it's hard for them to tell.

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BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone' date=' and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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Cutting you some slack on the grammar, I have a question about your statement. You say it's easier to detect lies when you are young than if you were old. Do you seriously believe this?

 

Yes...Because younger children have been known to hesitate before they attempt to lie. That's how you can tll a lie from the truth while on the phone..

But, if the person they're lying to is younge, then it's hard for them to tell.

 

You do have a point.

But this probably still won't stop Claire from making a big mistake.

 

Claire, I hope you will be able to find your way back home if you need to. I am in full support for your happiness, just don't throw it completely away. Don't let love blind you from what the right thing, but let your heart guide you. I undersand you have thought long and hard and are stillgoing through with this, but please be in comfort that you still have friends online, but most importantly, that you still have friends in real life.

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Yeah... actually, I'm interested in hearing the girl's plan.

What is it, exactly?

And please don't tell me some vague plan like "I'mma go meet him and live with him and be happily ever after!"

Be smart about this, IF you decide to. I hope you don't decide to, but if you do, at least have an extremely detailed plan...

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BUT!!!...Claire does have a valid reason to trust her BF. Because she talks with him on the phone' date=' and when your at such a young age, it's just as easy as being taken advantage of as it is to tell if someone is lying to you on the phone.

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Cutting you some slack on the grammar, I have a question about your statement. You say it's easier to detect lies when you are young than if you were old. Do you seriously believe this?

 

Yes...Because younger children have been known to hesitate before they attempt to lie. That's how you can tll a lie from the truth while on the phone..

Stop changing the subject. Now, you're talking about the fact that it's easier to detect lies from people who are young.

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actually, i do have a plan

i have 2 plans on getting 2 my bf's house, and 3 plans of what 2 do once im actually there

ive thought all of this through very carefully, ive thought of everything that could go wrong, and i have a back-up idea 4 everything

i realize that this could be a huge mistake, and if anything goes wrong, i no what 2 do

everything is very carefully planned out

if i have 2, i will go home

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Well..I wish you the best of luck. I really do hope that everything works out to th best for you. Because this is the turning point of your entire life, You either see your BF and find that true love is either a lie or truth, or you completely throw your life away. Trust me when I say this, you will cry when you rreach your desitination. Either tears of joy or dissappointment, I can't be sure, but you will cry, and m suggestion for you, if just let yourself cry, it'll help.

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thanks.....dont misjudge me' date=' this wasnt something i decided on easily

in fact, my bf even warned me against it

but he said he supported me decision, and would be glad 2 help

 

 

honestly, ive thought about this 4 almost a month actually

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As I happen to know that you are older than a month, I assume that you have lived with your family during your life. If this assumption is wrong, feel free to correct me. A month, simply put, is not a large part of your life. Given that you are around 14 1/4 years old, a month is only 1/180 of your life. Not even a percent. Closer to half a percent. During this half percent of your life, you have thought of abandoning the other 99 1/2 percents of your life to live with a person you have just spoken to via an Internet connection and phones. A person you have never met in the flesh. I generally have nothing against internet relationships, as long as they don't break the fourth wall and keep themselves on the internet.

 

As you might be able to tell, I'm against this. You should not do this, Claire. It's not good. Regardless of what you think now, this will hurt you in the long run, as many have told better before me.

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I say we just let her go. Let her learn things the hard way. The worst that can happen is that her boyfriend turns out to be a deranged murderer and chops her to pieces while she's still alive and makes her watch as he devours her.

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