Aix Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 Have you been in one? Do they work? What's your opinion on them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sploda Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I tried this once, we kept it going for a few months before both deciding we were better off giving up on it. As for how they work, I guess it just depends on the person. Best example of one that works is looking at Black and Caeda's relationship. I'm of the opinion that so long as a relationship isn't founded on creepy stalking/blackmailing; if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I have tried it about 2 times, and they both went south, but were mutual in the end, so I can't complain about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nathanael D. Striker Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 Hello, my name is Striker and I've been in a long distance relationship for over two years now. It does present it's own challenges that other relationships don't have. Also trust is a more important factor in LDR since you can't see your significant other face to face as often as other relationships. And depending on the distance, that face to face time can be near impossible to get without spending a fortune and Skype can only do so much to try and accommodate for that, assuming both parties have home internet (yes folks, I'm differentiating cellphone data and internet here, so no judging). My girlfriend and I have made it work this long, and we are doing quite well. So yes, it can work though a lot of factors are in play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VCR_CAT Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I did once... that was... that was a thing... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(GigaDrillBreaker) Posted July 16, 2015 Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 Long distance relationships are difficult. Having that sort of feelings toward a person, but not being fully able to express them, not being able to touch them... It is hard. And it hurts. And sometimes, it feels like the whole thing was a mistake, and it is hard to reason against thoughts like that. But if you really do love them, and want to be with them, there isn't much else to do other than keep trying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zauls Posted July 16, 2015 Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 Mine probably would have worked if she hadn't been a funking psycho... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapidfire Posted July 16, 2015 Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 Well I got out of a year long long distance relationship a couple months ago, and wow I'm glad that's over. Like yeah I was in love and all, but it's not really healthy. It ate me up, and it just didn't work out. I guess now I'm on like a relationship pause, I don't want one and I don't even wanna think about anything romantic with anyone. I'm way to busy with my senior year and looking for colleges, I really don't have time for that mess. But yeah, long distance sucks, don't do it kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Amazing Avian Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I was in one and it was going pretty great. Then it turned out she was actually a guy with a feminine voice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(GigaDrillBreaker) Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 I was in one and it was going pretty great. Then it turned out she was actually a guy with a feminine voice. I assume you mean, like, actual guy, rather than transgendered, basically working into Arin's issue? That is funked up man, sorry to hear it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mugendramon Posted July 20, 2015 Report Share Posted July 20, 2015 3 years and counting, still love her very very much. But we have an open relationship, because needs are needs and we only see each other for a month a year at most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
'tyleR Posted July 21, 2015 Report Share Posted July 21, 2015 In one, we visit each other, our parents are supportive and let us stay at the other's house when visits happen. We trust each other completely but miss each other greatly. Honestly I've never been happier with a woman tho so it's worked out fantastic. Plus I'm in the process of moving to her state and we are singling out apartments at the moment, so it won't be such for much longer. I don't think it's a mistake or anything at all, just depends on the kind of person you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Death Bishop Posted July 21, 2015 Report Share Posted July 21, 2015 For starters, it depends on what you define as long distance. 100 kilometres or 10,000 kilometres? Quite honestly though, they can work out if you put enough effort into them. If you are in a long distance relationship that makes it extremely hard to see one another often and if you are in a closed relationship, trust is essential. In my opinion though, having a relationship that isn't long distance is so much easier, but it depends on the type of person you are. If you meet someone who makes you happy and who you love unconditionally, no barrier should prevent you from being together. Love is not supposed to be easy and that is the beauty of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Amazing Avian Posted July 23, 2015 Report Share Posted July 23, 2015 I assume you mean, like, actual guy, rather than transgendered, basically working into Arin's issue? That is f***ed up man, sorry to hear it.Yes. Actual guy. It was pretty shitty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mave Posted August 28, 2015 Report Share Posted August 28, 2015 Finally a pro-topic for me, haha.Okay, just kidding, but actually - I'm a pro when it comes to long distance relationships. Self-Destruct Button and I met online in a Pokémon forum like three, almost four years ago and it was love at the first sight. He was funny, intelligent, interesting and special, you know? So I felt in love with him, unconditionally. We came closer and we're a couple since May 2012. But unfortunately he lives in Nord-Rhein-Westfalen, a "state" of Germany, and I'm from Bavaria, so there are 500km (310 Miles) between us. We always skyped, phoned, wrote text messages, wrote letters, and then we finally met and it was love at first sight again. From that moment on we know we could do everything as long as we're together, and we did, now we're more than 3 years together and he'll move to my family and me to go to university, he already passed the exam to qualify. And I believe that every couple can handle this, as long they have five important things - contact, trust, a future to look for, strenght and creativity. It's hard to be in a ldr, of course, but it's worth it, as long both trust each other and they meet, nothing hurts more than being alone and not seeing your segnificant other for months. You should also have a future to look for - a pointless relationship is sad, since it shouldn't be a ldr forever, so both have to work on their (shared) future. And they must be creative, dating via distance is not easy, but with a bit of creativity it will work, you could watch series, movies, youtube together, you could read a book together. It's hard to miss someone, everyone knows how that feels, but if you really love each other unconditonally, you will handle this perfectly. At last but not at least - I respect everybodies opinion, really, but I think it's not fair to judge a ldr. It's of course painful as funk and it depends on your personality, but it's a sign of trust and strenght, and everybody should have the choice to love someone, no matter if 2, 20, 200 or 2000 miles apart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lunar Origins Posted September 1, 2015 Report Share Posted September 1, 2015 Currently in a 2000 mile long relationship with my significant other (here as Skydreamer). It takes a lot of work, but we certainly do love each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flame Dragon Posted September 1, 2015 Report Share Posted September 1, 2015 Never been in one personally but a BUNCH of my friends have or had them. One is in one with someone from Canada and has been for a few years now. Its worked nicely for them. Another has been in a couple. One went poorly when they came to visit and has been in an on/off one with someone from Canada for a while now. Another is constantly moving for work so they don't really get a lot of time with their significant other but they didn't start online. Feel like there are more, but those are off the top of my head. Its pretty amazing what technology can do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simping For Hina Posted September 1, 2015 Report Share Posted September 1, 2015 Flame Dragon is shy and afraid to admit that we are in a relationship. It isn't long distance, we actually like about 30 miles from each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(GigaDrillBreaker) Posted September 1, 2015 Report Share Posted September 1, 2015 Been over a month and to be completely honest, I am a lot more in favor of making an effort for long-distance relationships, now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dog King Posted September 1, 2015 Report Share Posted September 1, 2015 Been over a month and to be completely honest, I am a lot more in favor of making an effort for long-distance relationships, now.wow i told u to keep this as a secret Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merci Posted September 2, 2015 Report Share Posted September 2, 2015 Well... They work out until they don't. I've been in three of these, and all of them lasted for quite some time, each of them over six months, but no matter how hopeful they seemed, in the end none of them worked out. The third one in particular struck me. I'd been in a relationship with her for over a year, we knew everything about each other and had each others' backs, even promised to marry each other and all that stuff. But ultimately, she met a guy IRL who could actually, physically be there for her, care for her, and everything. Of course I let her leave me for him, and for the past few years, it's apparently worked out extremely well for the both of them. Yay. Still, I guess after all that, I've been left a little bitter about long-distance relationships, and also frustrated since the more time goes on and I feel alone, the more I want to feel someone, to hug someone and cuddle up with them. That's something I can't get from anyone online. Of course, I'm perfectly willing to give it another chance. Love always has its own challenges, its own hurdles to overcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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